"You deserve a better guy"....
I heard about this repeatedly since 9 months ago... but haven't got a chance to really talk about this... so ... how should we
define this "better" guy?
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Not to talk about me first, let's talk about some common or jealousy things that we can always see everyday on the street....
When you shopping in the mall, or walking/ strolling on the street, you will see this very pretty girl, holding a guy who is maybe half an inch shorter than her, if not will be a guy with half bald, or big beer tummy which maybe bigger than those pregnant woman ... or even like a much older man... you will think, "oh my god! i think she deserves a better guy!" but have u ever thought of approaching her and ask her why want to choose to be with that guy who she is holding her hand tightly to?
Or sometimes, you will curse the ugly girl who stands next to the so-called-prince-charming in your high school, wonder how come he will be so good to her, what is so good about her that can make him treat her whole heartedly.. then you will start spreading the rumours.. "hmm..i think he deserved a better girl; he can get a much better girl, much prettier one." etc.
Yet, have you ever asked him as well.. ? No, we did not...
To them, the one standing next to them, the one whom they hold their hands to, are their "better" one. Everyone has different judgement. To you, you will think that, yeah, according to her/his appearance, his/her occupation/income etc, he/she surely can get someone better or even at least, match his/her qualification. They might have been searching their-so-called "better one" since ages ago, yet, they couldnt find it. Or maybe they have met someone like that... 4 or 5Cs (credit card, car, condo, career, cash) , and good looking, etc. whatever good points you can think of, they will have them.
But, just how come it's not "click".... You don't feel butterfly in the stomach when you chat with them, your heart still beat as normal when he accidentally touch your hand. Your face won't blush if they look at you deeply into your eyes. Even though, he/she is the "best of the best" you have met since the heart broken one....
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For the past 9 months, yes, the better guy did appear. He's rich, he is not bad looking, he is homely (even more homely than me!), he has good career, and has a house in Australia. But i don't get palpitation when I talked to him, I don't blush, I won't feel nervous ............ even though, he is really better than him... But how many of you know exactly what happened between each couple?
Someone told me, he has been living with the life that people "wish" him to live so. and he is now... living with this life, following people's wish. happy or not, only he himself know. He can't have any wishful thinking, because he can't. and he is not allowed. As, i believe, deeply inside his heart, the regrets grow tiny little bit, without his realisation.
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I also wish to live on the life that my parents want me to live. For example... marry a rich husband, then I don't have to work, everyday high tea, shopping, sometimes work part time. or taking care the kids at home. But... how many percent of chance you will meet the person can give you all this? maybe the 1 can afford to give you married or attached .. or even they can afford to give you, is he/she the one you really want to be with?
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So, no one can say "you deserve a better guy" ... because you will never know or understand what is happening deep down their world =)p/s: so i also have to stop saying or comment on others , "hmm..she deserves a better guy"
